Notes From Beyond The Edge

Jottings and Fripperies by a Lady Who Likes Letters

Anonymous asked: No, I disagree, I don't think they are 'breadcrumbs.' I think it's a step forward, for men to reach other men (and maybe even women who are unaware) about female issues. There are no other 'highly known' male feminist movements, and if men talking to other men about sexism and misogyny is what's going to make them understand, then I'll take it. The goal here is to reach awareness and educate others about feminism, not to see who's more 'the face' of feminism.


But why should there be an all male dominated feminist movement? What’s important about being a male feminist or feminist ally is LISTENING to other women’s experiences of oppression and misogyny and if you create a space only for men or you give only men a platform (which is what heforshe does) to speak about experiences that are not their own with ZERO women’s voices then you are just perpetuating the domination of women. It’s like having a trans movement made up entirely of cis people or a Black power movement of only white people. We don’t need more voices of the dominant group when oppressed voices are already so underrepresented. Also, a huge amount of women don’t identify as feminists as well and it’s just as important to try to reach out and include them.

The other issue a lot of people had with heforshe of course was that there was no mention of intersectionality and how that ties into gender inequality. The experiences of a white wealthy straight cis woman (Emma Watson for example, although I don’t know what she identifies as in regards to orientation) are going to look very different from the experiences of a woman who is poor or lesbian or transgender or a person of color. By not acknowledging these intersecting identities you are both alienating entire groups of even more marginalized women and ignoring the power structures that perpetuate different types of oppression.


Apologies if this has been screencapped already

But just to be clear

Billions of people entrust their lives to these morons on a semi-regular basis

(via katefatale)


Feminist — There is no Iggy, Lana, Marina, or Lorde in this mix. No white feminism here, bye.
i. Flawless BEYONCEii. Fxxk Boyz Get Money FEMMiii. Bad Girls M.I.Aiv. Long Way 2 Go CASSIEv. I Am The Best 2NE1vi. Muny NICKI MINAJvii. Queen JANELLE MONAEviii. Sexy, Naughty, Bitchy TATA YOUNGix. Anaconda NICKI MINAJx. Truth Or Dare GAINxi. Problem NATALIA KILLSxii. BO$$ FIFTH HARMONYxiii. I Am Your Leader NICKI MINAJ


FeministThere is no Iggy, Lana, Marina, or Lorde in this mix. No white feminism here, bye.

i. Flawless BEYONCE
ii. Fxxk Boyz Get Money FEMM
iii. Bad Girls M.I.A
iv. Long Way 2 Go CASSIE
v. I Am The Best 2NE1
viii. Sexy, Naughty, Bitchy TATA YOUNG
ix. Anaconda NICKI MINAJ
x. Truth Or Dare GAIN
xiii. I Am Your Leader NICKI MINAJ

(via irresistible-revolution)





This perfectly summarizes why I love the Simpsons and hate Family Guy. 


So this.

I watched that episode with my family and I could just feel how uncomfortable everyone was. Honestly, it was a really jarring, unpleasant episode.

Homer is a terrible dad. So is Peter. But Homer’s saving grace has always been that he tries—he’s bad at it and he fucks it up a lot, but he loves his family and he wants to be better than he is.

One of my favorite Homer moments is in “Diatribe of a Mad Housewife.” Tl;dr Marge writes a steamy romance novel starring herself and Ned, and when Homer finds out, he chases down Ned and, rather than attack him, asks him to teach him how to be a better husband.

There’s some part of his stupid self that wants to do better.

I never got that impression with Peter. Instead, the family has gotten more and more abusive towards Meg. It’s really unsettling for me when I started realizing that’s what happens sometimes in abusive families. Abusers sometimes single out one child to abuse, and quite often the other family members take the abuser’s side. After all, it’s easier to side with an abuser than to run the risk of becoming the target yourself.

There’s never really a point where it seems like Peter cares at all that his shitty behavior impacts his family. It actually seems to have gotten worse over the years. He expects everyone to clean up his messes because that’s always what happens; there’s really no reason for him not to be shitty.

And it’s easy to see how Meg is affected. She doesn’t have much of a character, really, because so much her screen time is devoted to being abused. The bits of character development all seem to hinge on her being this sad, neglected person who’s trying her best but never really gets any help from anyone. Quite the opposite; there have been a lot of episodes where her family sabotages any attempts to be herself.

It can be easy to forget how awful this behavior is when the only context is the show itself (frankly, everyone on Family Guy is kind of terrible). Seeing it played against the Simpsons, who are a flawed and dysfunctional but ultimately loving family, was painful to watch.

I think one of the best things about Homers development is that Homer can be a bad father and bad husband because of how people in their era (depending on which decade the episode aired) were raised to think and feel certain ways. He doesn’t know how to be anything else but he realizes hes flawed and makes attempts to change.

Family Guy just reinforces those ways of thinking in the characters and in the story even when they show us the character have changed.